So I asked him are we on the same page and then all hell broke loose. My ex boyfriend and I dated, lived together, broke up, and got back together many times in the past 6 years. I don’t know what he’s thinking and I’m doubting my decision to walk away. I met Lisa in early 2013, and we had been friends while I had dated both Gia and Paige. Speaking of books, you really need to check out my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book“.  It’s epic in length and cover just about every question or situation that might crop up during this whole process. He always wanted to keep contact with me and he would tell me that he misses me. If that happened to me, my significant other cheated on me with my best friend I would be so upset I would not be able to even talk to my significant other. Is it really over between us? I was dating a guy for 3-4 months (exclusively), but due to no progress and him saying he was unsure about me, I ended it with him. What am I going to think during this time? Here is a rundown of the five most popular reactions after no contact. He has reached out several times to get more stuff at the house which he has and I gave him access and wasn’t there. The most expensive Mustang ever sold at an auction was a 1.3 million dollar 1967 Shelby Mustang. If he or she texts you, ignore him or her. Then drop her a text to say hi or whats up. He asked me how I was doing, and later he had been drinking a bit, and he asked why I had reached out to him now. never implied i was the reason but I felt like I was. For example, lets say you cheated on him with his best friend (totally not true but bear with me here.) By golfdoc, 9 years ago on Breaking up. It makes you feel a little insignificant as a man and the more insignificant a man feels the more he will feel like he has to prove. A lot can go through the mind of a man during the no contact rule. 2 weeks ago 2 days after I stayed the night at his house, he told me he loved me. But then something else happened And how am i? No fighting, no affairs, no anger. My ex broke up with me about a month and a half ago, he said we were both in a lot of pain and hurting each other and he didn’t want to hurt me anymore, that it seemed like the only option (we were together for almost a year). I’ve written a lot about the no contact rule on this site. But just a reminder, if you want the most comprehensive resource out there on the No Contact Principle, then go pick up a copy of my popular eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book”. A few days ago one of my coaching clients contacted me with an interesting request. or should I take this as a sign of ending? Saying his doing better now I remembered him. The second reason on why your ex blocks you after 3 months of no contact on Instagram is because he/ she wants to create a boundary. Yeah, that one, the guy who ripped your heart out and then stomped on it -- and then was adamant about how he wanted to "stay friends." I have been broken up with my ex 7 months now. This always sounds silly to me when people are surprised that their ex hasn’t contacted them after the breakup and some time. Well, he ended up taking this girl on one date and he thought that the date went pretty well. Lets assume that you and I dated and we broke up with each other. How often does your affair partner contact you? Here is how I would deal with this situation if I was in your shoes and it happened to me. I almost look at men who are super angry after the no contact rule like toddlers who go to the store and throw a tantrum because their mommy or daddy won’t buy them the toy they wanted. I was more cold, sending mix signals, no really open for discussions and wanted this to be more casual. I haven’t responded. I like to use this rule: for every month of the relationship, you should be doing a week of no contact – up to a maximum of 8 weeks and with a minimum of 3 weeks. This is a response that most of my one on one clients are terrified of yet it rarely happens. Rather than freaking out over a neutral response I would wait a day or two and then try again with another text. You wait a week, send another text message and he doesn’t respond. If the ex responds more positively then you know for a fact that you can advance things. I called him he denied it and I told him I didn’t want to talk to him anymore. The space of 5 months with no contact helped to create a healthy space among two people. And we kind of split up without any drama or any resentment. I am figure it is just lunch so I am not looking into besides it is lunch. Now, if you follow the advice I have laid out in this site you will give your ex that special something he needs to understand that you are still interested in him. One time he said he wants us to be friends and work toward being in a relationship again. Lets say you only lasted something like a week. Now, I will admit that for you this is probably the worst type of ex boyfriend to have because he probably knows exactly what is going on. And every time we get together is absolutely great, but then we hit the same dead end that he is not ready to commit. During it’s use on me I would probably be extremely upset and angry with the person who used it on me. He doesn’t want me he said he doesn’t trust me even though I haven’t really done anything wrong other than look after my mum. My biggest fears are no response (which I doubt would happen) or disinterested pity response. What if you failed no contact 3 times? I'm speaking from experience. I always been so jelous and get mad at him with his instagram why is he not posting our pictures together but I stopped acting so childish about it. Good luck. I’m trying to be so patient, but I’m so confused. When you’re in no contact with your ex and are going through the 3 stages of no contact for the dumpee , you are likely doubting no contact. That’s why you hurt so badly and why you panicked. No contact rule works wonder for bringing the real bonding phase into a relationship. In other words, the more angry he gets the more he really cares. They will hate being ignored by you so much that they will tell themselves, “Oh, it’s time to move on because she wants nothing to do with me.”. It’s been nearly 30 days NC and I still haven’t heard from him. We broke up nearly 3 months ago because he said he doesn't know what he wants from life and is doesn't want a serious relationship etc. i want her back, and i initiated contact after 8 days! We had been talking marriage, kids, and him moving to America. It has been three months since my ex (she broke up with me) and I have had contact and five days ago she texted me telling me she had heard I accepted a new full time job and said congrats. I suppose in order for us to to fully understand this section we first need to understand what a “neutral response” is. No matter what stage of the breakup you might currently be at, author Brian Bold takes your hand, leads you on, and shows you exactly what you should be doing to reverse ANY breakup.. Well, this woman was curious as to what was going on in the mind of a man AFTER the no contact rule had already be implemented. Will my no contact work that way or I need a different approach? Well, one of the most beautiful things about this website is the fact that I actually get to interact with thousands of women and hear how their attempt to get their ex back goes. Yes, I miss you but I am also aware by ignoring me during the no contact rule you are playing a game and this sets off an alarm in my head. You see, during your relationship he was always flirting with other girls and saying things like. I do admit that I was a really pressuring person. Well, I am going to probably run an interesting comparison in my head. Then he sent me a text saying you don’t need to be drinking and driving you have a good job you don’t need to lose it. Your ex, who probably wants to talk to you, is ignored for 30 days and grows angry because he doesn’t get what he wants, to talk to you. He probably knows that you are ignoring him on purpose so that he will miss you and ultimately want you to come back. Look, I have been ignored before by a woman and let me tell you that it is extremely annoying to want nothing more to be heard when instead you are ignored. Silence your a *****, your just another one of the 99% of ***** dudes that calls meeting a girl, let alone an ex an "opportunity"...****.. guys like you make me sick...always kissing **** to the females, your the reason they do what they do.....the other guys are right, break it off man, 5 years later and this is the best advice I found, Holy ****, I've been In the same situation and this comment was all I needed too see. However, what about if our past relationship was great? Good communication is the glue that holds a relationship together; without communication there is really no relationship. As of this moment we have over 20,000 men and women purchase a product from us. However, if you try reaching out 3-5 times to your ex and he responds either negatively or neutrally each of those times it is at this point you know that his anger, resentment or disappointment runs deep and he may need more time to deal with the situation. I broke up with him because his so flirty with women and he cheated on me , which made me feel so insecure during more of his flirting occured. Me and my boyfriend of nearly two years split up after I decided I had to walk away as he didn’t know what he wanted from our future. And I’ve never heard from him. Be sure to read articles on how to progress and keep working on your Holy Trinity during this time and you will see great results. I hadn’t heard those words in awhile from him so it felt good. We went 12 days NC, but I reached out to him to see how he was. When he reached out again he told me he had a weak moment and attempted suicide. My E-Book, The No Contact Rule Book teaches women that after the no contact rule they should actually reach out to their exes with a text message that is so interesting that is impossible for him not to respond. Hear her out fella! We had been together since February after He has not tried to contact me even once in the past one week. And than we were both in lockdown. Hi Shamara, I can not really answer that question, what I would suggest that if you spend some time working on yourself in No Contact and then start reaching out with the texts that Chris suggests in his articles to see if you can create some reconnection with your ex and build rapport. He said he felt like a piece of him was missing. There is just one problem, this is me we are talking about here and I run a website where I teach women how to get their exes back so I pretty much know every trick in the book. The point of our breakup was to give me a chance to find somebody else that I can fall in love with and have kids with. Eventually though, when time takes hold of the situation, men begin to mellow out and gain some perspective on the situation. Now, the question in play here is what could possibly be going on in your exes mind if he gives you this type of response? This happened about two weeks ago I’ve texted him and he only texted back one time when I showed up at his house he was not there I took a picture of his front door and told him I hope he was happy I called him it went straight to voicemail so after I got home he called me and said hey did you call me I said yes but it was a mistake I shouldn’t have called you I’m drunk and he said okay. Oh, you probably want to know the things that your ex would be thinking don’t you ? I was the only one trying to make it work, and months later we broke up, which was in May.